This is a heart-felt message to all of my bloggy friends, those I've met and the ones I hope to meet soon. I don't believe you have to have birthed a child, adopted one, or even need to have one in your life to still receive the title of "MOM." I believe that any woman who takes care of her family in whatever capacity that may be, is a "Mom." Those of us who do have children, sometimes feel that should be the desire of every other woman, but that's not true. I believe we each have to choose our own path.
I knew from the time I was a very young child that I wanted to someday be a "Mom." My desire came from watching and being close to my grandmother. I looked to her as my example of what a mother should be and how she should treat her children. My own mother truly did not like being a mother and made that very clear to me at a very tender age. My grandparents always lived close, I think because they felt they needed to protect me and show me what "love" really was suppose to be. I'm so grateful that I had both my grandparents during what was a very dark time in my life. I knew from being with these dear sweet people that I wanted to be a "Mom" someday, and I knew my children would never want for love.
My Mom was a woman who should never have had children. I think at the time, there was so much pressure to have children -- it was what was expected of you. I'm glad that women today can choose which path they want to take.
I am grateful every single day that I found (or he found me) a sweet and kind man to spend my life with. I am grateful that in the very early years, when my body didn't want to cooperate in making a baby, that we were united in our desire to be parents however that needed to happen. I am grateful that we didn't give up, and were then blessed with first our beautiful daughter and then our wonderful son. I am so grateful for the many exciting years we had with them growing up, even with a few ups and downs. I am so grateful that they both found that wonderful love for themselves that they saw in their father and me. I am so grateful that they, too, chose to have children and bestow on each and everyone, that wonderful "unconditional" love that parents should have.
I am truly blessed to have had my wonderful Grandmother (and Grandfather) who taught me how to love. I now understand that bond that we shared. Being a grandmother myself, of 6, I would lay down my life in a heartbeat to protect them. They are my own children's precious children which makes the knot around my heart even tighter.
So again I say, choose your own path. I can't imagine my life without my children, but I do truly believe that it's not for everyone. But, if it is your desire and there are obstacles in the way, just don't give up. I applaud each and every woman I know for who you are and pray you always stay true to yourself.
I wish you all a very Happy Mother's Day!